And if we're being honest here, there's also a good chance you have some investment in the identity of being a perfectionist because of the positive connotations of the word "perfect"—who doesn't want to be perfect?
It's important to educate yourself about what constitutes perfectionism and why it's seen as a negative thing. You can decide how much you want to work at shrugging off these traits and learn strategies to accomplish your goal. Click below to listen now. The problem with perfectionism—and the reason you'll want to know if you possess any perfectionistic traits—is that perfectionists actually tend to achieve less and stress more than regular high achievers.
Being a perfectionist makes it more challenging to meet the goal of being perfect, or even of reaching a personal best. Perfectionists are a lot like high achievers , but with some key differences. The following are ten telltale traits of perfectionists, that you may be able to spot in yourself or in the people you know.
Do any of these sound familiar? Perfectionists, like high achievers, tend to set high goals and work hard toward them. Perfectionists will accept nothing less than perfection. Perfectionists are more critical of themselves and others than high achievers. While high achievers take pride in their accomplishments and tend to be supportive of others, perfectionists tend to spot mistakes and imperfections. They hone in on imperfections and have trouble seeing anything else.
High achievers tend to be pulled toward their goals and by a desire to achieve them. They are happy with any steps made in the right direction. Perfectionists, on the other hand, tend to be pushed toward their goals by a fear of not reaching them and see anything less than a perfectly met goal as a failure. This psychodynamic context was complicated by the presence of an excess in self-demands, to comply with a very strict and perfectionist picture of herself. As one pianist remarked, 'you need to be a perfectionist in practice and a realist in performance'.
The question will be whether prudential value is foreign to, or is rather included in, this perfectionist value. We hope to have shown that such criticism is not impractical perfectionist carping.
If so, he has no reason to resist the standard perfectionist view that perfection is a proposal about the nature of welfare. Still, the two methods seem to differ on a cardinal point, since the perfectionist method is teleological, whereas the intuitionist method is deontological.
But he also developed a reputation for being a perfectionist with his own songs and secretive as to his guitar techniques. Or he might also be called a liberal perfectionist. This good is not perfectionist , but straightforwardly prudential.
When deployed together, these afford insights into the nature of political thought that neither purely logical nor perfectionist analyses can provide. If you get married, you will adopt certain perfectionist ideas about marriage and think that your marriage does not live up to the standards. Most perfectionists offer rival accounts of welfare rather than renounce welfare.
On balance, the perfectionist element - which now appears as the unqualified defence of efficiency, for which an impersonal system of rules is instrumental - is in conflict with the ignorance argument. It is difficult to see why one should have to be committed to utilitarianism if one's overriding purpose is to realize certain perfectionist values, whether these be egalitarian or not.
Their achievements are not about what others will think of them or a fear of failure , it's to gain personal gratification from their success. People who deem themselves perfectionists, on the other hand, are not driven by the pursuit of perfection, they're driven by the avoidance of failure.
True perfectionists aren't really trying to be perfect, they are avoiding not being good enough. This avoidance dictates much of their behavior, and it's linked to depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and even suicide. Paul Hewitt, PhD and psychologist Gordon Flett are two of the most respected researchers of perfectionistic behavior.
Those who feel social pressure to achieve perfection tend to feel that the better they do, the better they are expected to do. And so, the search for absolute perfection never ends. Are you a high achiever or a perfectionist? Here are seven signs that your pursuit of perfection may put you at risk of depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and in very extreme cases, suicidal thinking. Hewitt uses this example of a college student, also one of his patients, viewed his success. However, he became even more depressed and suicidal than he was prior to the end of semester.
It's never good enough, so you get sucked so far into the details that you become frustrated--even angry. Even when your goal is complete and results in success, you believe you could and should have done it better. I was raised in a culture where success is extolled, and failure, punished. People are celebrated for being the best and you are shamed upon if you are mediocre. Not only that, back in my primary school, we were taught to follow idiosyncratic guidelines like only being allowed to wear plain, single-colored watches that were black, grey, white, or blue; or that girls should not have any strand of hair that touched or covered any part of the face.
Hair bands or hair ties, if used, should be single-colored as well and only one of the same four colors black, grey, white, or blue was allowed.
Non-conformance would result in you being shamed, scolded in front of a crowd, or for guys, being caned. This combined with a very high innate sensitivity made me super meticulous about every single thing I do. This meticulousness extends beyond my studies to every area in life. For example, back when I was making websites as a teen , I was relentless in perfecting every single aspect of my sites.
When I was an avid gamer as a child , I was always perfecting my performance in each game I played. I fondly remember how I broke all top scores in Crazy Taxi a racing game and completed every bonus challenge there were a lot, and some of them were insanely difficult. I played and replayed King of Fighters 95 for weeks upon weeks, perfected my moves for my favorite characters and attacking strategies depending on the opponent, and won it many times on the hardest difficulty.
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